Expressions of love can appear in so many forms. On a Valentine’s day not so long ago, it was expressed in the form of a little song, quickly made up and sung off key.
A few years back, my husband, Scott, a school teacher, had a two hour delay because of a storm. Because of this, he was home when I went to wake our teenage daughter up. As I opened the door to her room, he quickly stepped up beside me. We walked in together and spontaneously I started to sing – an old song from when our kids were young. My husband joined in. Then we launched into a Happy Valentine’s Day song sung to the tune of Happy Birthday. As we did that, Scott walked around the other side of her bed and together we bent down and kissed her.
And then we left her to get ready for the day.
And a thought occurred to me. Never, growing up, had my parents come into my bedroom and sung to me. Scott said that he had never experienced that either.
Yet we had just done that. We had done something we weren’t taught. Later, I realized that over the years, we’ve done similar things like that with all our kids. Spontaneously loving them through song or dance or hugs or kisses.
And I thought about how as parents, it seems that our desire is always to give to our kids some elusive thing we didn’t have as children. It’s a desire, older than time itself. Regardless of what our childhoods were like we want more for our children.
But usually that ‘more’ comes in the form of things, or opportunities. But on that particular Valentine’s day, it came in the form of songs and kisses and two parents, united in their purpose to love on their daughter when the opportunity presented itself.
Some days we feel guilty about the opportunities we let pass by. Opportunities to express our love for one another.
And some days, we manage to express it just right.